The Art of Seduction
Seduction isn’t all about sex. It’s a psychological game that can aid people in persuading others.
Seduction can help people acquire power and reach success. We have seen this in many historical cases such as the lives of Cleopatra and Napoleon.
And today, seduction is everywhere from marketing to politics to the music industry.
To properly seduce people you need to be able to easily connect with people and you need charisma.
“When our emotions are engaged, we often have trouble seeing things as they are.” - Robert Greene
In Robert Greene’s, “The Art of Seduction” you will learn how to identify your seductive character type, how to properly seduce your target, and how to deal with the consequential aftereffects.
Learn Your Seductive Character Type
Everyone has something that makes them unique. And because of that, everyone has something that makes them naturally seductive. To utilize it, you must identify what it is.
Greene identifies nine character types in his book: sirens, rakes, ideal lovers, dandies, naturals, coquettes, charmers, charismatics, and stars.
Sirens are the confident, extremely sexual, alluring women that everyone dreams about. The image of the siren promises pleasurable touch and physical intimacy.
Sirens often wear very elaborate and unique clothing while they walk around with confidence.
The power of the siren is on an uprise because most men currently live in an environment where their desires are sheltered. Men who crave risk and adventure are drawn to the confident power of this type of woman.
Cleopatra was a famous siren. She ruled with bold energy, had an exotic physical look, and extreme passion. Cleopatra, with her siren powers, convinced Julius Caesar to stay in Egypt longer than he had intended to, while his city of Rome was suffering.
After Caesar, Cleopatra seduced Mark Antony. Tales today are still told about this historic scandalous love affair.
Rakes are characterized as rebellious men who have a tendency to be a little wild and crazy.
Rakes make the ones around them feel desired through big gestures and actions of affection.
Don Juan is a historic example of a rake. This Spanish seducer was known for his daring and passionate actions toward women. And since he had a ‘bad boy’ reputation, the women found him even more desirable.
Ideal lovers give their partners a unique version of romance. An ideal lover is like a fantasy come to life. There are no strings attached, so the complications of a long-term relationship are non-existent.
If you are an ideal lover, then it is important to focus on others to find what they are missing in their lives in order to seduce them properly.
Casanova is a historical example of an ideal lover. He would study a woman, find out what was missing, and then provide it for her no matter how much effort it took.
No matter what the woman wanted from conversation to physical touch to adventure, Casanova would find a way to bring that fantasy to life for the woman he was with.
Dandies are free spirits. They show other people what it means to be truly free. They push away societal norms and expectations and design themselves to be totally unique and independent.
Oscar Wilde is a famous example of a dandy. He hated convention and was oftentimes caught donning a green velvet suit.
Andy Warhol was also a dandy. He was known for saying whatever he wanted and doing whatever he felt. People often complained about his behavior but instead of putting up a fight or defending himself, Warhol would simply find another circle of friends to hang with.
Dandies tend to attract people who have desires that have been long-hidden.
Naturals are honest, playfully childish, and spontaneous creatures. They are full of energy and life. And they often remind people of their childhood.
Charlie Chaplin was a famous natural. His playful and fun behavior which emulated the beautiful simple aspects of life attracted people to him.
Coquettes are the people who raise other’s hopes and dreams and then crush them repeatedly. And for some reason, this really draws people.
Josephine Bonaparte, Napoleon’s wife, is a historic example of a croquette. She would constantly turn from hot to cold. And this made Napoleon want her even more. He would try with all his might to win her over again and again and he never grew bored of her.
Charmers like to point out other’s best qualities in order to make them feel good about themselves.
Charmers fully understand the moods and emotions of others. This allows them to quickly adapt to whatever the other person is feeling and provide for them what they need.
Benjamin Disraeli, a prime minister of England in the 19th century, is a famous example of a charmer. He gained Queen Victoria’s affection and political support through charming her and making her feel beautiful.
People who are charismatics are known for being confident, sophisticated, and purposeful. They also are very good at showing their vulnerable side while still remaining on top and in charge.
These people are brave and like to take risks.
Vladamir Lenin, a courageous historic example, would walk the streets freely even though he was getting death threats. He was a strong supporter of communism and spent his life pushing those ideas into society. Lenin was known for inspiring others with his words. Even after he passed away, Lenin continued to have a following of people.
People who are stars, help others to make their fantasies a reality and escape the hum-drum of everyday life.
They quickly pick up on what people want to manifest into, and they help them to feel as if it’s all possible.
John F. Kennedy is a famous example of a star. He promised America to help build a new society and essentially make it great once again.
Seducing Your Target
Every romance and relationship is different. But in the art of seduction, there are four stages that will help you succeed.
Stirring Interest and Desire
Someone who knows the art of seduction knows that if they come on too strong, they may scare their target. So, the trick is to make yourself noticeable and approachable without being too obvious about your intentions.
Engage in conversation platonically and without affection in order to stir interest and desire.
Create Pleasure and Confusion
Most people want to escape normal life and have a little adventure which is why a skilled seducer will do things that their target would not expect, just to keep them on their toes.
For example, if you are targeting a beautiful woman who is not usually complimented on her wit, surprise her by telling her how clever she is. This will make her feel that you see something in her that no one else has before, which will result in making her feel special.
Another trick is to alternate your behaviors when interacting with your target. For example, you could act sweet and innocent, but then drop flirtatious notes when exiting the room. This behavior is mysterious and intrigues your target.
To keep them interested, try being flaking. If you back out on a date or commitment last minute, your target will start to want you even more. Everyone wants what they can’t have.
Go Off the Precipe
After you have secured your target through the art of seduction, it is vital to deepen the connection with them. It is important that you take extreme measures in order to show your target how much you care for them and how far you are willing to go.
A historic example of this is the story of Pauline Bonaparte and her toothache. Major Jules de Canouville won Pauline’s heart when she was afraid to get her tooth pulled at the dentist. Canouville bravely let the dentist take a tooth from the back of his mouth first to show Bonaparte that there was nothing to be afraid of.
Move In For the Kill
The final stage secures everything. This is the stage where you must make your target fully understand how much you mean to them and what a difference having you in their life makes in regards to their happiness.
To do this, you must pull back and become distant. This will force your target to begin pursuing you. Then, when the time comes, you must make a dramatic gesture of your love for them.
The ups and downs that happened throughout the four stages will allow you and your lover to feel a satisfying climax during your dramatic gesture of love.
After the Seduction
After the seduction, it is not uncommon for the enchantment to end and reality to kick in. So, you must be prepared for that risk.
“There is too little mystery in the world; too many people say exactly what they feel or want.”- Robert Greene
Once you and your target start feeling complacent in the relationship, you will inevitably fall out of love. So, it’s best to remain a little mysterious to your partner.
However, if you wish to end the relationship, the art of seduction can help you there too. All you have to do is try to be predictable and the flames will surely fade.
The Main Take-Away:
Understanding the art of seduction and the human behavior behind it can help you to persuade people for your best interests. By observing and identifying behaviors in yourself and in others, you will have more confidence navigating and initiating relationships, as well as attracting others to your ideas.